This article that you are about to read is not an up-lifting and positive issue. It is going to be a REALISTIC and TERRIFYING read, one that is going make you feel sick to your stomach, not to mention make your skin crawl. This article is going to awaken your inner hate and give you a desire to make your cry for help count. It is about child molesters. The kind of human that in my mind does not deserve a second chance. A child molester is like any other disease that we must find a vaccine for and get rid of forever.

This article consists of my thoughts on child molesters. I cannot promise you that these thoughts will be kind or positive feeling. For that I apologize up front. My target here is to wake up the parents that are too busy to take a minute to check who their child is talking to on the internet, or ask who is calling when a mature voice is on the other end of the phone asking for your child.
I plead with all parents to be aware of who your neighbors are, who your child is with when they say they will not be at home after school or that they have to stay at school...again. Is your child bringing gifts home telling you that it was just a friend that gave it to them?

Start to watch your child's emotions when they have to go to school. Anything aside from the normal can be a direct sign that they are being harassed or molested at their school.
I am the first person that will try everything to avoid negative vibes. I do not like to be the bearer of bad news any more than you like to read about it. Parents we need to wake up and watch, and yes, question people. I use to think how sad it is that I have to make my children afraid of strangers. That was some years back. Now we not only have to warn our children of strangers, but their teachers, priests, ministers, and even family. I shudder to even type those words.
Our world has more enemies than we have imagined. We have child molesters, we have the drug pushers and lets not forget the people that hide behind Pornography and attract young boys and girls into the world of *** for cash. All of these perpetrators have similar traits.. they lure your innocent child into their traps. Whether it is for money, self-satisfaction, control, or pure inhuman reasoning, they are all a form of abuse.

Child molesters are what I call a, "Freak of Nature". I cannot conceive of their reasons nor can I listen to therapists tell me that they can be rehabilitated. Child molesters know exactly what they are doing and what they want. They take as much time as needed to seek their victim. That victim can be your child. If you think not, you best think again!

When you glance at the head lines that I have added to my article, you will see how real these perpetrators are. I have listed a minuscule list of molesters that are reported in our small world. There are hundreds of thousands of these reports to choose from. These words are not exaggerated, nor have they been edited. These headlines are real. They tell you about children that have been stalked and taken from their safe and innocent world. They were taken into a world that they could not understand, nor leave. They were taught things that you as an adult would never even want to think about. These are your children with their innocence stolen. All it took was one minute that you were not watching or concerning yourself with who was on the other end of the phone or the internet chat. Does it sounds like I am blaming you, the parent? I am in a sense, partially blaming you. These animals that have chosen your son or daughter are using your denials or your too-busy-life as a key to open the door to your child's heart and trust.

Child molesters are patient and smart. They are thinking through demented mind strength, which allows them a very cunning control. They use the highest form of trickery to lure your child into their web. This trickery is one of kindness, and gentleness. They will become your child's best friend and shoulder to cry on. They will wait for the precise second to take their innocence forever. They are quiet and lurk in the backgrounds, so as not to be seen by you, the parents. You are their enemy. You will disrupt their plan and they do not want you around. They will try everything in their power to get you and your child thinking separately. A child molester will have your child defending them even before you know they exist in your child's life. They are powerful and will crush your child's innocence forever.

You CAN stop them through your awareness of your child's every move. It is your responsibility as a parent to care, to ask questions, to demand answers, and yes even to check their rooms or computer logs. Whatever it takes....DO IT!!

I want you to take a few minutes to let your mind absorb the news headings below. This can be your child. It is someones child. I weep for those families.

One could be desiring your child right now!

- Man charged with child molesting
Prosecutors charged a former Hobart man with molesting a teenage girl several times in 2002 and 2003.

-Former Harbor Cop Accused Of Child Molesting
San Carlos resident, entered his plea to eight felony and four misdemeanor child molestation counts. He remains free on $100,000 bail.

-Indy man accused of molesting boy, girl
Convicted molester faces 8 felony charges involving alleged abuse of a 3- and 5-year-old

-Molester of girl, 2, loses appeal for shorter term
The Indiana Court of Appeals upheld an 80-year prison sentence for a man convicted of molesting a 2-year-old child.

-49 ARRESTED IN INTERNET CHILD_MOLESTING STING
Riverside County prosecutor says the results of the operation are 'alarming.' A sting to capture attempted child molesters netted 49 men in Riverside County, including a U.S. Homeland Security agent and a high school teacher.

-Killer of child-molesting priest claims insanity
An inmate charged with strangling child-molesting former priest John Geoghan said he did it to protect other youngsters, a guard testified Wednesday as the prisoner's murder trial began.

-Former British glam rock star Gary Glitter has been indicted by Vietnamese
prosecutors on charges of "lewd acts with minors" and is being investigated on possible rape charges involving girls of 11 and 12. Glitter, whose real name is Paul Francis Gadd, was arrested in 1997 in the UK after a computer technician found hard-core child Pornography on his computer.
He was convicted of possession of Pornography and served half of a four-month sentence in 1999, after which he fled to live in Cambodia and Vietnam.


-Teacher, 49, arrested in child-molesting case
A 49-year-old high school English teacher has been arrested on suspicion of child molestation and jailed on $1 million bail, authorities said.

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~Dorothy L~

"Child abuse continues to be a significant problem in the United States. It was estimated that in 2001, 903,000 children were the victims of child abuse or neglect. Child abuse is a crime perpetrated on the innocent and the defenseless."
  -Pete Domenici

Motherhood can be the most joyous part of our lives. It gives us feelings of love, of being needed, of being responsible, and so many more positive things. It also gives us many challenges that we are never prepared to deal with. The challenge that I am going to share with you, is of a mother having to deal with an abusive child. Whether the abuse stems from chemical abuse or learned behavior, it is still abuse. These questions are my thoughts.

When does being a mother to your children, switch into being a prisoner of their world?

When does being a mother that nurtures and breast feeds her sweet helpless child, turn into a mother ducking from that grown child's blows?

When does being a mother say we have to stand by and watch our children fall into the grips of addiction?

When does being a mother tell us that we are to endure all and be responsible for this child till death do us part?

When does being a mother mean that we must never turn our backs on our children?

When does a mother deserve a lesser respect than a doormat?

When is there no name, short of shame and embarrassment for how a child treats his/her  mother?

When does a mother begin to fear her child and not recognize her own offspring?

When does a mother have to be stronger than ever and choose her well being over someone she once held to her breast?

When does a mother realize her baby is gone?

When does being a mother become a thankless job?

When the Child is the Abuser, that's when!

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Being a mother is THE hardest job in the world as far as I am concerned. When our spouses abuse us, we leave them, without further-ado. When the child is the abuser, we allow it. We allow and we allow, over and over again. We hope that they will change, grow up or just please leave. We will never ask them to leave, or force them to leave. If we do that, then we have put ourselves in an unforgivable position. Why? Because we are a mother. Mothers are not suppose to walk away from their children.

At what age does a child become a responsible adult?

Are we to be responsible for their bad judgments in their lives?

What are we teaching them by allowing them to abuse and control us?

We teach them that this is an acceptable behavior. We are teaching them this so that we do not have to feel the guilt of turning our backs on them. Sounds a bit confusing, does it not?

Well, we are the ones creating this confusion. Matters of the heart are their best weapon. They will use it until our hearts are no more. Only then can we, as mothers finally take a stand as a human, being abused. Life does not come written in a book for us to follow. We are entering every day, sight unseen. We can only go by what others have told us is the right way, or our gut instinct.

Another reason that being a mother is the ultimate, most painstaking job is because we believe that we have brought these little people into this world and we are responsible for their actions. What they do reflects on us. I will agree with both of those statements to a certain age. Once that child begins to make his/her own choices, it is then that they themselves begin to be responsible for themselves and their actions in life. We are no longer responsible. A child must leave the nest in order to learn how to survive. If you have ever watched a mother bird and her babies, you will see that the baby has only so long to learn to fly. After that the mother tosses this little bird out of the nest and forces it to fly. The mother is not being mean or hurtful. She is doing what any mother would do to teach her child. She is teaching that child the art of survival. I know that we are humans and we are not birds, but in Gods eyes we are given the gift of motherhood because we are strong enough to know when it is time. Time to separate being a mother to a helpless child, to being a mother to an adult.

Being a parent unfortunately does not set us aside from an abusive world. If our child grows up and falls into an addiction of drugs or alcohol, or has a very volatile personality, we are not above the law in their eyes. They can, and in many instances will, turn on us. At this point, it is our responsibility as a parent to do the right thing; the right thing that many others around you may not understand. Some will even frown on you for your decision. They obviously have not walked a mile in your shoes. For the others that commend you for your decision, they know what your world has become.

If the time ever comes that you are forced to walk away from your child, you will experience what is known as guilt. This guilt will be a very natural reaction of a parent that has just suffered a great loss. You will feel shame and embarrassment as if you are the one that has failed. These will eventually pass and in  place will come a feeling of a justified peace. Peace in the knowledge that you have just succeeded in making one of the most toughest decisions a parent will ever have to make. You have taken a stand as a responsible parent and have had to take control of your life and the freedom in which you deserve. You have also given your child a direction....you have made a choice. The choice to no longer enable the abuse. It is to disable it. You can do this, there are professionals that are trained to help you understand that you have made the right choice for both you and your child.

Please do not confuse disabling abuse and disabling your love. It is out of your love as a parent and your own well being  that you do have the strength to make this choice. It is your love that will help you understand that this child needs to either get professional help or take the abuse elsewhere.

Abusers only abuse because they can. In any relationship this fact stands true!

Abuse is many things, but none of them are healthy or productive.

Abuse is unacceptable.

Abuse is wrong.

Abuse is mental as well as physical.

Abuse is hurtful and deliberate.

Abuse is not, ever a joke.

Abuse knows no face or relationship.

Abuse needs to be professionally dealt with.

Abuse respects no-one.

Abuse is irrational.

Abuse must be stopped.

Abuse will kill.

To save your child from further destroying both your lives, you must make the right decision. As a parent, you must take control and get help!

Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws!

-Barbara Kingsolver

~D~

In order to make a commitment to a relationship, it takes strength and trust in another. When we trust our partner and we receive trust back, it is a very nice feeling. One should never betray or play games with that trust. Those games usually get caught, and a broken trust will surely create a huge wall of communication breakdown. When you truly trust another, you are opening your heart and mind to an outsider. You are at this time very vulnerable for just about any kind of emotional attack. Confusion and misunderstandings are among those emotions now.

This is why communication is so important. It is the key to opening all those doors. Without it, the doors will remained locked and one will have to work very hard to break through. It is much more productive to just talk, listen, and understand your partner. I am not saying that this will be easy, but with love in your heart, it can be done. The end results will definitely be more lasting. For every forced door, there will be a negative memory to try to bypass in the future. When doors are open with love, patience and respect, they will have only good memories to savor and smile upon in the future. Those are extremely important in tearing down those walls.

Communication is a very important act between two people. It even has more importance than *** to keep a relationship building stronger. In order to to communicate, it takes two willing and open minds. If one mind is closed, all that will happen is the other will grow in confusion and frustration.

Some of us worry about the ABC`s in life and others worry about the EF&G`s in life. Thats OK. It is what adds to the color to our black and white life with each other. Yes it would be easier if we all worried and thought about things equally. It would be less confusing. But only for a short time. Soon enough our complacency with each other would get "OLD". It would be as if we could read each others minds, but what would be the point if we thought and worried the same.

A little bit of controversy is a much needed thing in a relationship. It helps us to get to know another part of our partner and also our own selves. When we open our hearts to another, only then will we offer this part of us. Until then it isn't necessary. One very important thing about a person sharing their inner most fears and disappointments is never, ever, try to stifle that person or walk away in frustration. If someone is that open with you, embrace it and  hear them out. Never belittle their concerns as being immature or nonsensical because you would never have those concerns. Remember the ABC`s, we all think differently. Only then can you both communicate, otherwise you will add another block to the wall of communication breakdown.

When we are forced into silence, we begin to build walls. If we are not allowed to voice our inner feelings or disappointments, we will quickly stop trying to communicate forever. Once the first brick has then been set, the foundation of the wall to communication breakdown will rise up very fast. Trust me, there is not a single relationship that does not carry or tear down a brick to the wall of communication.

There are many levels of relationships. Some of us are put into situations that take much courage to see past our hurts and disappointments. Just remember what brought your relationship together in the beginning. Many times we will be forced to return to page one and start from there. With open minds and nonjudgmental hearts we can get past many mistakes and problems that will arise in a relationship.

Another favorite, but not so good habit that we as humans create, is to regurgitate things over and over again. I use the word "regurgitate", because that's how I view having things being tossed back in your face. Have you ever noticed that another lovely habit (NOT) that we as humans have is to only dig up the dirt when we are in the heat of anger? We do this time and time again, because we already know that these things are a guaranteed hit. It is a very cheap and bullish way to try to win a conversation. Is that not what most communication breakdowns are? Conversation wars that end up shooting old ammunition back and forth at one another? The problem there is that noone ever wins that battle. All that is really happening is that both parties have just taken an equal part in adding more blocks to the wall of communication breakdown. Both sides lose.

Communication can only really work when neither party is being selfish, meaning that if one person is feeling that they are being attacked with every word that is coming their way, and it is all about hurting them. They have automatically closed an open door without even realizing it. Low self-esteem will surely make a person feel this way. Or if one partner gets carried away and will not stop to let the other party absorb what was just said, this too is a typical selfish act. That is why it is important that we take turns with each other and try to understand what is actually being said.
If one partner misunderstands, and you are aware of that, then you are responsible to stop and work with them in a loving manner to get them to open that door. It is vital to not assume anything until the other person has completely finished.

This is why the power of writing is so productive. One person writes his/her thoughts down, uninterrupted, without fear of being derailed from their thoughts and with the ability to just get it all of their chest, so to speak. People pay big bucks to be told just this, so listen up! If you find that your wall of communication breakdown is starting to build, then this habit of writing letters to each other is a very good way to bypass the wall.

Always reread your letter before handing it over. That too helps you to maybe erase a thought or two that was purely emotional when writing it. We all know that old saying, "I did`t mean that, I was just upset at the time". Well there's a hind site tip for all of us struggling with that d**n wall of communication breakdown.

Do you ever feel that you are so far under that wall, that you will never be able to communicate with your partner again and just want to run away? Before you run away, think about exactly what and why you are running from. Are you running from a partner that could very well be the best thing that ever happened to you? Or are you in fact running away from your own issues that you refuse to deal with? Remember this, if it is your own demons that you fear, you will run forever. You will never be happy. You will always blame your relationship or your partner for your downfalls. Running away is a cop out. It is a true weakness in character. To stay and fight and trust that your partner will understand your troubles is a true sign of courage and one that will be greatly respected.

We all have our pasts. We must understand that yes, they did happen and that is what they are, past issues. To have your past continue to come between yourself and your partner is a bad thing. Whether it is a person or just an experience, it should be left in the past. This is where good communication comes to the rescue yet again. When we are made aware of certain issues in our partners pasts, it sometimes makes them easier to understand and deal with if they happen to come about again. If we are left in the dark and we have to meet up with another's past and it is not a very good experience, we will be weak in defense and our ability to communicate positively will be almost non-existent.

Some people fear their partners pasts, viewing them as a threat to their own relationship. This is normal and should be dealt with through love and understanding. Again we must communicate with each other and not look down on anyone for their honesty and true fears.

That wall of communication breakdown will never completely come down if we skip a few blocks and ignore them, or handle them so wrong that they double in size. A good strong relationship will endure most any mistake made by humans as long as both partners are willing and honest with each other .

~D~

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"To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others." 

- Anthony Robbins

"Words are a wonderful form of communication, but they will never replace kisses and hugzzz"

-Dorothy 

"Some think that love is all flowers and good times, but I think that love is more than just that. Love is the bad, as well as the better, not lived alone, but a journey together. Something that only the closest can share, with communication, respect,"

-Anonymous